though the two books i’m reading at the moment “Aphrodite’s Daughters” and “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” differ greatly on subject matter (one is about how a woman’s sexual experience affects her spiritual unfolding and the other is a super famous guide on personal change)… they both touch on the importance of INTERDEPENDENCE. our society is very focused on being independent- which is a beautiful thing! however, Covey (author of “the 7 habits…”) challenges us to think in a new way- to create interdependence (not dependence where you must completely rely on others for your needs and wants) as interdependent people “combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.” he even goes as far to say that interdependence trumps independence as a more mature and advanced concept because to be interdependent you first must be independent yet your realize that even at your best you can accomplish more together than alone. Also, as emotionally interdependent, one can “derive a great sense of worth within, but also recognizes the need for love, for giving, and for receiving love from others.” “As an interdependent person, one has the opportunity to share oneself deeply, meaningfully, with others, and have access to the vast resources and potential of other human beings.” Interdependence is a choice only independent people can make… interesting…. on the spiritual tip we can relate this to the power of the collective love energy we all share and are connected by…
Bonheim (author of Aphrodite’s Daughters), touches on the subject in the form of partnership… “as children, we used to play a game called tunnel. We would get down on our hands and knees, side by side, forming a tunnel with our bodies. Then the last in line would detach from the tunnel and crawl through the dark passageway of whispering, breathing, laughing bodies. At other times we would play leapfrog, vaulting over each other like drunk grasshoppers. In such games, children enact a basic truth. We are all tunnels, doorways, thresholds, and stepping-stones for one another. We evolve not in isolation but in community, each person taking off with the help of many others. Partnership is an adult from of leapfrog. In our time of exaggerated individualism, it reminds us that there are certain types of gateways and tunnels and bridges we can create alone, and others we can create only in conjunction with others.”
so as a very independent woman, i’m consciously celebrating my INTERDEPENDENCE!!!!
maybe we should create an interdependence day?! 🙂
interdependent ladies (me with the lovely Aneesah Williams)